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Music evokes memories, plays on our heartstrings, moves and delights our senses and sets a unifying tone for ceremonies.   Sometimes couples have clear ideas about the music they wish to include and that gives me a feel for the mood we are creating together.  Other times, ideas for music (like other elements and rituals) are inspired by the couple’s story and the themes that emerge. Here’s a musical look back at some of the love songs that accompanied my wedding couples in 2012.

Each couple’s ceremony is unique and reflective of the special qualities and spirit of their relationship. Sometimes that includes a desire for a very traditional element such as walking down the aisle to Wagner’s classic Wedding March  (the quintessential, “here comes the bride”) as Liliana chose to do.

In contrast, the very contemporary and wondrous Afternoon Love In  by Prefuse 73 played a special part in Sarah and Jonathan’s love story. It was fun to decipher the tune’s groovy structure and to choreograph the entrances of the wedding party around its varied rhythmic and melodic sections.

Sometimes rich song lyrics tie beautifully into the language of a ceremony. A couple who wanted to honor the groom’s mother chose to process arm in arm to one of her favorites, Elvis’s How Great Thou Art. I wrote my introduction to build on those powerful gospel lyrics, weaving them into a more universal expression that resonated with the couple and their chosen setting. Surrounded by lush green hills and a dramatic, expansive sky, as the music faded, I began their ceremony with, “How great thou art indeed – that which sings through all creation.  How great thou art – this magnificent spirit of love and grace that brings us to this glorious hillside to unite our couple as husband and wife.”

When I learned that Haley really liked Jason Mraz’s lilting love song I’m Yours, I suggested Vitamin String Quartet’s rendition for the recessional. This instrumental version matched the elegance of their ceremony and because I’m Yours was such a popular song I’m sure many of the guests heard the sweet apropos lyrics in their heads or were quietly humming along as the couple joyfully recessed.

When rain threatened a wedding in the Berkshires, the garden needed to be set-up with fewer chairs and the acoustic guitar had no amplification.  These changes actually made for a more intimate feeling as the guests gathered arm in arm and drew nearer with the entrance of the wedding party to hear Purcell’s regal Trumpet Voluntary

For Kelly and Mark who first met in London, then lived for a time in Australia and got married on an island in Lake Winnipesaukee, I proposed a parade of the guests (a tradition found in various parts of the world) from the boat dock to the ceremonial site. Three eager flower girls led the way while I played two tunes from the British Isles on flute: Haste to the Wedding & Marie’s Wedding.

Another couple thought they’d have a simple elopement ceremony and forego music altogether. But after learning about the groom’s love of the cello I suggested Josefin’s Waltz by cellist Natalie Haas and fiddler Alasdair Frazier. Accompanied by this beautiful duet, the groom and bride each walked a half circle and met one another before the large stone fireplace at their New England farm venue.

What melodies will accompany my couples up and down the aisle in the coming year? I’m eager to hear. Whether recorded or performed live, the musical possibilities for processionals, recessionals and within the ceremony itself, are endless!

Sarah and Jonathan danced down the aisle to Louis Prima's The Music Goes Round and Round

Sarah and Jonathan dancing down the aisle to Louis Prima’s The Music Goes Round and Round.


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I’d been told to turn right off the country road and drive through the open “bar way” gate. The gravel road curved up a fairly steep hill and when I reached the top the setting took my breath away!

Jim and Wendy created a beautiful ceremonial space on their friend’s land, overlooking Mt. Monadnock in Jaffrey, New Hampshire.

Although the mountain was invisible behind thick clouds, the ceremony and the retelling of their love story evoked its majestic presence.

Wendy and Jim made their vows on an oathing stone, which they found on the mountain and had engraved for their ceremony.  I suggested this Scottish tradition after learning about this couple’s love of mountain climbing and the joy they experience being in nature together.  It will be an enduring symbol, as if their love, and the promises they made are “set in stone.”

Like.the colorful carpet of leaves that they walked through hand in hand, I used red and gold paper and bound their keepsake ceremony with an earthy twine.  

Looking back, I realize we were blessed with a break in the heavy rains that fell before and after their ceremony that day, and that this loving couple created a special radiance all their own!

Thank you so much for the beautiful bound keepsake! It was done beautifully, as beautiful as our ceremony that you created and performed.  Wow! Both Jimmy and I were blown away at how wonderful our wedding day was and the FABULOUS job that you did.  It was more than we could have ever imagined!!! The picture you sent of our oathing stone and the way it kind of mimicked the outline of Monadnock was so neat. 

Thanks so much for all that you did to make our wedding so special and wonderful! I sing your praises to all that I have told about our wedding!

Wendy and Jim 

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